Sexual arousal in men is a complex process. This includes the processing of external information (what the strong sex sees and hears), the psychological readiness for sex, the expectation of pleasure and the immediate physiological response of the body. How this process happens in boys and how to speed up awakening is useful for every woman to know.
Where does it all begin?
Excitement is triggered by a variety of sensory stimuli. A girl's smell, her kisses and touches, her appearance (especially without clothes) stimulate centers in the brain that transmit a signal to the genitals through the nervous system.
Hormones are involved in this process. Dr. John Bancroft, an American sexologist and the fourth part-time director of the Kinsey Institute for Sex Research, claims that the level of testosterone in the blood determines the degree of arousal of a man. This conclusion was made as a result of a study, the results of which were published in the Journal of Endocrinology in the article "Endocrinology of sexual arousal".
As a result, an erection occurs. This is the filling of the cavernous bodies of the penis with blood. The muscles contract and prevent venous outflow, due to which the penis becomes hard, enlarges (on average 3-4 times) and pulsation is felt. Often such a reaction occurs within a few seconds after sexual stimulation. It is interesting that during foreplay, the erection can weaken and strengthen again - this is absolutely normal.
The British Journal of Urology International published a study conducted among 20 thousand men. The dimensions of their genitals were measured. Men from all over the world participated. As a result, it turned out that the average size of the penis at rest is 9. 16 cm, and during erection - 13. 12 cm.
There are three types of erections. One of them - nocturnal (spontaneous) - occurs without sexual overtones. The other two accompany sexual arousal in men.
Psychogenic (or psychological) - occurs against the background of excitation of centers in the brain. Nerve impulses are transmitted to the spinal cord, then along the nerves to the reproductive system.
Reflex - appears as a result of touching the penis. Since this organ has many nerve endings and its skin is extremely sensitive, even light touches can cause irritation and bleeding in the penis.
In addition to an erection, a man's pulse quickens, his breathing becomes faster and his blood pressure rises (as in half of the female population). The scrotum becomes thicker and may become denser, and the testicles are raised. The upper part of the body becomes slightly red. A lubricating fluid is released, facilitating the passage of the sperm through the canal.
What turns men on?
In addition to a beautiful picture (a woman naked, or dressed in lace underwear, dancing, lying seductively, etc. ), foreplay plays a big role. Men also need it to make the arousal as strong as possible. The surest way for a girl to turn a guy on is to stimulate his sensitive areas. This includes:
- Head, neck and chest;
- Abdomen (especially the lower part) and back;
- Genital organs and surrounding areas.
Foreplay begins, in most cases, with kissing. A passionate kiss from a girl can already cause an erection and put a guy in the right mood. There are many nerve endings in the lips; in addition, he feels his partner's sexuality and predicts future sex. At this time, the occipital area can be hit with your hands; this area is also very sensitive. Many men like it when their ears are kissed and bitten, but you should be careful with this, as there are those who categorically do not like this process.
The lower abdomen is an excellent area for caressing before oral sex (from the navel down). The back is suitable for erotic massage. By the way, this can be done not only with your hands, but also with your lips, hair and bare chest.
With the genitals, everything is clear - any movement in this area is welcome and causes sexual arousal in men. You must be careful of sudden movements; boys may fear for the safety of their dignity. Blowjob, manual technique - all this maximizes the partner's desire. Nearby areas include the inner thighs, which can be stroked with the hands.
Representatives of the stronger sex get excited quite quickly. But they need more time (from several hours to a day) to rest and fully recover after sex than women, since the process takes a lot of energy. Therefore, repeated sexual arousal may not happen quickly for all men and this should be treated with understanding.
Sexual arousal in men
When you see a partner who is sexually attractive to you, you get excited first psychologically and then physically. But how this happens is a question little known to most people. What does science say? She considers arousal to be a physiological sexual response.
Or rather, the first stage of it. That is, a whole series of processes. There are no gender differences: increased breathing and heart rate, the appearance of muscle tension, increased blood pressure, increased salivation, dilated pupils, the appearance of redness and goose bumps, as well as nipple erection.
With sexual arousal, psychological behavior, vision and voice change. This is due to the release of hormones into the blood, which act in the body as a medicine. In men, in addition to the above, there is an erection of the penis, an elevation of the scrotum in the pubis, its swelling and thickening, as well as the release of pre-ejaculate to lubricate the head.
In women, there is additional lubrication, thinning or, conversely, enlargement of the labia majora (depending on whether the woman has given birth or not), erection of the clitoris, elevation and enlargement of the uterus, tension of the pubosacral muscles and an increase in the length of the vagina.
By the way, if in men reddening of the skin is observed in rare cases, then in women a flow of blood occurs not only on the clitoris and labia, but also on the chest and back. In some women, this redness is so visible that during and after orgasm, the area between the chest to the shoulders and neck can also become scarlet.
Why are there so many reactions? They are accompanied by a rush of blood, which the body carries out to achieve greater sensitivity of the genital organs and readiness for the second stage in the cycle of sexual reactions - intercourse. After the excitement phase are: the plateau phase (sexual relations), the orgasm phase and the phase of ending sexual reactions.
The awakening phase may not occur. This is often a physical rather than a psychological problem. Erectile dysfunction (impotence) is a disorder in which the strength of the erection is insufficient for sexual intercourse. There are three types of impotence: psychological, organic and mixed.
In most men, erectile dysfunction is associated with the organic form due to various diseases. The most frequent causes of this are cardiovascular diseases, diabetes and hormonal disorders. The quality of blood supply to organs and hormonal levels are disrupted.
With some diseases, bad habits, taking certain drugs, especially those that affect the central nervous system and a sedentary lifestyle, blood flow to the pelvic organs is weakened, which is why the main reaction of sexual arousal in a mandoes not happen - filling of cavernous bodies with blood.
Drugs, alcohol and tobacco affect not only the physical condition, but also the psychological one, therefore impotence goes from an organic form to a mixed one. You cannot delay this situation; it can be easily corrected at first. You should see a urologist or sex therapist.
Men are sexually aroused much more often than they reach orgasm. Long-term abstinence can cause serious damage to the body in general and the genitals in particular. The favorite motto of women "we will excite you and not let you down" is good in moderation - you should not overdo it with such fun. Sexual dissatisfaction seriously affects not only physical health, but also mental health. The man becomes irritable, angry, nervous. Regular orgasm is an important condition for the normal functioning of the body. And there is practically no difference in the way it is taken - during sex or masturbation.